I’m a simple guy who loves God, my family and friends, and surfing the world’s oceans. My life summit is to surf warm waves with my great-grandchildren on my 100th birthday. In spite of a lucrative career in real estate investing that affords me freedom of time, TRUE success for me is to love, be loved, and always be serving.
So I use that time very wisely by practicing the 5F’s. I wasn’t always this clear on who I am, what makes me truly happy and how to achieve that – so I get it. If you’re not either, I’d love to help
1. What does thriving mean to you?
Thriving like happiness comes in waves. This life is made of contrast and the times that we have been in survival mode or struggling make us truly appreciate thriving. Thriving at anything is a process and comes and goes in my opinion. The rub is enjoying the ride all along the way.
2. What’s the one domino that moves you toward thriving?
(My faith) Loving on and forgiving myself first. My relationship with myself completely drives and dictates the health and depth of all of the important external relationships like family friends fitness and finance. The one domino is taking time for myself every morning and being quiet.
3. What was or is your favourite way to sabotage yourself?
Just like everybody else fear of failing or even success is how I self sabotage. Our reality and heaven or hell lies between our ears
4. How do you deal with challenging times?
Everything is relative and honestly the quality of life and types of problems we deal with living in North America are what I like to call champagne problems. I am consistently exposing myself to Third World conditions/different lifestyles in cultures to keep me grounded. Picking three things to be grateful for every day and sharing them with your family is a simple tool and will alleviate a lot of our so-called problems.
5. What was an embarrassing/painful moment you can share?
My rock-bottom was when I turned 21 and had two abortions with two different women that I was not in love with. This experience almost destroyed me at the time and fast forward 25 years later and what was a crisis is now an opportunity for me to be grateful. I received the most beautiful loving and wisdom filled advice from a complete stranger when I shared with him the darkness I was going through around these abortions at the time. His advice to me was to realize that I am one of the luckiest human beings living on the planet as I now have two personal guardian angels watching over me in those unborn children and protecting me for the rest of my life. What a paradigm shift!!
6. What did you learn recently?
What I learned is you never stop learning and I am a student for life. With that said I have a very acute filter on what information I will expose myself to and take in. Living in the information and technology age we have the world in our pocket literally in a smart phone. The challenge becomes creating healthy boundaries and rules around this incredible time we live in. Our children are watching us and learning along with us so our boundaries and rules are part of the legacy we give future generations.
7. Divide your age by half , who were you then?
About 22 years old and in the darkest time in my life as I described above. I was selling drugs, getting arrested, being promiscuous, and living a completely narcissistic and self-centered life. Fortunately I hit my rock-bottom and started to change who I was, who I spend my time with, and how I prioritize relationships. I certainly do not have it all figured out but I am crystal clear on my priorities and how I invest my time.
8. Think back 5-10 years, what moved the needle in your success?
My core business is real estate investments so in 2009 I went from starting out broke to becoming a multi millionaire before I turned 30 and then almost losing it all again in the global financial crisis of 2008/2009. This crisis Or pain made me step back and look at my priorities and how I was spending my time. I had to call bullshit on myself as there was a complete congruency gap on what I was telling myself what were my priorities and how I was spending my time on a daily basis. A mentor of mine 20+ years ago talked to me about the 5 Fs Faith fitness family friends and Finance! It was not until 2008 and I went back to my notes that I realize that these five relationships were timeless and borderless and where I was spending 99% of my time. I recently wrote a book called “What Matters Most?” that is focuses on these five relationships and this is the one thing that has kept me accountable and focused on my priorities And I continue to use on a daily basis and share with my communities. When you have enough pain in your life you will start to make changes.
9. Whats the one resource you would recommend?
The Ocean! I’m a surfer/waterman and play in it everyday. It teaches you respect, gives you every emotion and is always there for you. It has solved all of my problems and given me so much life.
10. What is your favourite quote or motto?
Nothing unreal exists. Nothing real can be threatened, here in lies the peace of God! -a Course in Miracles
11. What are your top VALUES?
Inner Peace and Kindness to others. Laughter is pretty cool too.
12. What is your focus over the next 12 months?
Simplicity in all areas of my life. Specifically liquidating a lot of assets and paying off any debt on the legacy portfolio we want to keep long term Being free and clear financially and having our income outweigh our overhead gives us freedom of time and that is a game changer.
13. You write a book for your grandkids / next generation, what principles do you want to pass on?
I did write a Book as described above which focuses on self love and forgiveness through faith (non religious/no dogma) , Family friends fitness and finance. Everyone no matter what age ethnicity or background is affected by these five key relationships.
14. You start a podcast, who is your first guest? If you have a podcast who would you love to have on?
I have a Facebook live show and one of my first guest was my friend and mentor Philip Mckernan. I would love to interview Jesus Christ, Buddha, and Bob Marley! That would be a party !
15. What are you thankful for?
My health and family and friends
16. If someone grew up in a dysfunctional home what advice would you give them going forward?
With all due respect everybody grew up in a dysfunctional home as normal is a dial on the washing machine and certainly does not exist in any family especially mine that I’ve come in contact with anywhere in the world. The advice I would give is be quick to love and quick to forgive. Life is short so why not enjoy
17. What is your favourite memory of the last 12 months?
Taking both of our boys on one on one trips to the snow and mountains for the first time. We live on a little barrier island in sub tropical Florida so it was magic to watch an experience snow.
18. Do you have a favourite joke or a funny moment?
Putting lobster carcasses in my mother-in-law‘s toilet, medicine cabinet and bed on a family cruise in the Caribbean. We also installed a video camera to record all of this so needless to say there’s some good footage there With some colorful language in German I’m assuming she was not singing my praises.
19. What do you need to have LESS of in your life?
Wasted time on things that aren’t important to me/my family.
20. What rule should we be breaking?
All of them. Isn’t that what they are for. I’m not a big fan of authority or conformity.
21 . What’s the one thing you want to do before you die?
I have surfed 20 foot waves and would like to take my surfing to the next level 20-40 ft surf which requires being in significantly bigger surf consistently which requires me to travel more. I’m ok with that. 😜
22. What is a step you would recommend one take to improve their life?
Get quiet on a daily basis and sweat every day.
23. Who is the PERSON you would love to acknowledge by nominating them to be showcased @ THRIVEMASTERS?
Giovanni Marsico or Christina Rasmussen
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