CONNOR BEATON is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s health, wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is also a speaker, podcast host, facilitator, and coach working with men and women from all over the world. Before founding ManTalks, Connor had a brief career as an opera singer and worked at Apple, leading high-performance sales and operations teams. Since founding ManTalks, Connor has spoken on stage at TEDx, taken ManTalks to over a dozen cities internationally and has been featured on platforms like Forbes, Influencive, HeForShe, The Good Men Project, UN Women, CBC, CBS, and the National Post.
1. What does thriving mean to you?
Thriving to me means when I am connected to my life’s purpose and work, when I am abundant in time, joy, money, friendship, and partnership. Thriving for me means to have it all and not feel guilt or shame.
2. What’s the one domino that moves you toward thriving?
It is the knowing that we all have a function and parts in the grand scheme of healing humanity. It’s knowing that no one should have to suffer and that if there is something I can do as a man, a leader, a coach, that it is my duty to for fill on that and serve others.
3. What takes you away from thriving?
The biggest thing that I have seen time and time again in people is the disbelief that they deserve to thrive and be in a state of abundance.
4. What was or is your favourite way to sabotage yourself?
Not believing that I was deserving of everything I knew I was capable of being and having.
5. What gets you back on track?
Mentoring, coaching, and relentless optimism and action.
6. Who were you at 10 years old?
Very confused, lost, yet optimistic child.
7. Divide your age by half , who were you then?
8. What was one of your aha/breakthrough moments?
Living out of the backseat of my car for three weeks several years ago realizing that there was more to life than hiding from who I knew I was capable of being. My aha moment came in the lowest of the low’s, in the rock-bottom of my life where I was suffering the most.
Thankfully I had a wise mentor who guided me on the path of overcoming my own obstacles.
9. Whats the one resource you would recommend and why?
Reading the book the wisdom of insecurity is by Alan Watts.
11. What is your focus this year?
Write my first book.
12. What is your focus 3/5 years?
Build an international and global organization that helps men find their purpose, connect deeply with their partners, and leave an impact in the world that is felt for generations to come.
13. What is your multi generational focus?
Help to heal the man of the world and give them the tools to heal future generations.
14. Who is one of the people that made an impact on your life?
My former mentor who was a disciple of Carl Jung’s pupils.
15. What are you thankful for?
Love. We so often forget the very real choice we face in every moment between love and suffering. Too many people are on auto pilot and choose suffering. I am very thankful to choose love and abundance as often as possible.
16. If a dysfunctional home/past has three legs holding up a table (which is unstable). What legs would you add to make your life stronger?
Always love… Not in a hippy-dippy, flowers shooting out of a canon over an audience of tie-dye wearing people who are high on MDMA or ecstasy- but the kind that requires us to make the tough choices to live a life rich in meaning.
17. What is your favourite memory of this year?
Saving a young mans life who had reached out to me after hitting rock bottom. He was on the verge of suicide and didn’t know where else to turn.
18. Think 3/5 years from now, what is your hell if you don’t take action or self sabotage?
The only hell would be forgetting all the lessons I’ve embraced and going back to living life on autopilot, completely unaware of my capacity and impact.
19. What would you need to have LESS of in your life?
I, like anyone else, could always have less ego ?
20. What rules should we be breaking?
That only the “chosen ones” deserve to have it all… that only a select few get to live big… Essentially you should be breaking ALL of the rules that are holding you back from greatness. Which is why having a mentor/coach is so powerful because we often cant see them (I couldn’t for years).
21. What haven’t you admitted out loud yet (which you are willing to share)?
I say it all out loud. Some of it sucks to hear. Some of it is hard to listen to, but all of it is transformative. And this is the practice I would recommend to transform your life. Some of the things you need to hear. Other things your partner/spouse needs to hear and others the people around you need to hear. Admit it, and it will STOP controlling you.
22. What’s the one thing you want to do before you die?
Teach as many men as humanly possible to live FULL, rich, rewarding, purpose driven and impactful lives. It’s the one thing I want to do. Day in, Day out.
23. Besides your immediate family who are the people that support you?
Mentors, the men I work with, my inner circle of brothers who I hike with, connect with every week and who call me forward.
24. How can people connect with you?