1. What does thriving mean to you?
Knowing Serenity & Peace. Feeling led by my higher power every day and aligned with it in serving others.
2. What’s the one domino that moves you toward thriving?
Meditation and Prayer
3. What was or is your favourite way to sabotage yourself?
Getting lost in geek rants about comic books
4. What gets you back on track?
My calendar. I’ve trained myself to respect committed time on that thing.
5. What was an embarrassing/painful moment you can share?
I like the word Painful in this question, because Ive recently learned that not all Pain is Evil. As I approached my 40th the pain of divorce crept in. I ended up in front of the judge at 9am on my 40th, and out by 9:11am done. I believe we are both very happy to be friends and that we co-parent our little like champs! There is the inevitable PAIN of saying goodbye to something that at one time was beautiful and meaningful – and also being in acceptance that I played in role in creating it and also breaking it down. While all pain isn’t EVIL… it always teaches us a lesson.
6. What did you learn recently?
Well… the above! I was reading a book from the Sheik of Dubai about his first 50 years in service. He chose a story for each year basically. He tells the story of being in the desert as a child – training in hinting and camping with a tribesman. He would seek warmth in the cold desert night and find himself STUNG by small scorpions. He was the only one being stung. This was because the mentor tribesman was putting small scorpions in is bed to sting him… slowly helping him build immunity to scorpion stings. While that pain wasn’t EVIL… it was necessary and served hi through life. TODAY he is still immune to the sting of the deadly scorpion.
7. Divide your age by half , who were you then?
40 so 20! WOW! I was a young, energetic and very zealous missionary, comic shop owner, was just married and in way over my head. I was remodeling a home, making an attempt in 3D animation, and speaking a lot in CHURCH. I wasn’t heavily in the world of personal development those years but was mentoring a speaking a TON!
8. Think back 5-10 years, what moved the needle in your success?
Committing to the profession. Not dabbling, not having 4 other side projects. It was a 100% commitment to excellence in every area of coaching and looking at it as a deep and respected profession. I also took over the Wealth Mastery Programs at Robbins research. Having the trust of Tony and Sage to handle Wealth Mastery as Tony’s book was launching (Money: master the game) was a big deal for me.
9. Whats the one resource you would recommend?
Meditation – and it’s free! Go find some quiet and be with yourself. Or… get hooked up with Jai Dev Singh – he’s amazing.
10. What is your favourite quote?
“Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them.” – Dr Seuss
11. What are your top VALUES?
FAMILY – CREATIVITY – FAITH – HONESTY
12. What is your focus over the next 12 months?
My focus is on laying a strong foundation. 37-40 was a hurricane that washed out some foundations in my life. It was necessary. The next 12 months are about grounding and laying a strong foundation for building what’s next.
13. You write a book for your great grandkids, what principles do you want to pass on?
Ohhhh Love this! My book for my great grandkids would include the Principle of FAMILY FIRST – both the one you’re born with and the one you choose. It would include the principle of PASSION and how to follow it towards ultimate fulfillment. I also want the principle of RESILIENCE. You need to know that its a muscle that you build and in this world… I believe its a MUST. Finally … of FAITH and in that I mean listening to your INNER GUIDANCE knowing that you are guided. My friend Ron tells me to “take the muffler off of my intuition.”
14. Who is one of the people that made an impact on your life?
Mrs Ruby Pool – my 2-6th grade music teacher. She showed me that I had a voice, and that if I practiced that voice could change lives. She encouraged creativity but was relentless about the basics, about showing up and giving 100%. She knew how to CREATE and get us excited about creating. I believe she also helped me become very comfortable with the stage and with stepping into my charismatic state at a very early age. Funny… in my mid 30’s I sought her out in Virginia while I was there and actually took some Piano lessons from her as an ADULT! It was amazing.
15. What are you thankful for?
My amazing life. YES I know it sounds very cliche but the complicity to was up every day and live this life and all that it throws at me… Life on Life’s terms… is STELLAR! It includes my beautiful little girl who I absolutely adore and enjoy watching her learn and grow.
16. If someone grew up in a dysfunctional/chaotic home what advice would you give them going forward?
Write. Journal it and get it out on paper. There’s no reason to hold it in. Process it and if you feel comfortable talk with someone. For me, growing up in a situation that could be described this way, I sought out counselors, friends, smart and grounded people that I knew could balance that perspective for me, and as an adult … you have to do the work. Id also say that it’s a MUST to get to Tony Robbins’ Date with Destiny. Watch the Netflix documentary and you’ll see why.
17. What is your favourite memory of the last 12 months?
Oh my! I was asked to block off 6-10pm on a Wed. I was given the most beautiful gift from someone very special to me in an evening with Jai Dev Singh and Simrit. It was perfect and the timing could not have been better. It was a beautiful evening.
18. Do you have a favourite joke or a funny moment?
“Halfway through Nicole Kidman’s last name there’s a tiny bar mitzvah.” – I die every time I hear this but I cannot for the life of me remember where it came from.
19. What do you need to have LESS of in your life?
Projects.. those little side things that fill up my ASANA boards and just keep moving.
20. What rule should we be breaking?
HA!!! Rules are meant to be FOLLOWED!!! But if we break one rule then its the rule that says there is a path or pattern that is socially acceptable in expressing love. We need more love and more forms of love showing up in the world. We should break the rule that says it’s not ok to interrupt. With so many people waling around with their heads stuck on a screen… I believe it’s time we all interrupt that pattern with more connection and love.
21 . What’s the one thing you want to do before you die?
Oh! One? Hmmm… I have this list of people that are on my MUST MEET list. Id like to knock a couple of those out… but ONE THING? Be the best parent I can possibly be for my daughter, and ensure she is set up for an amazing future free from some of the worries and woes that I have had. She’s such a beautiful soul and I want her to experience LIFE.
22. What is one small step you would recommend one take to improve their life?
READ EVERY DAY. I manage to get through books like a phantom. Its because I will audio and 2 rage my way through a book. “Leaders are readers” is no joke. Just start somewhere and commit to rolling through.
23. Who is the PERSON(S) you would like to acknowledge by nominating them to be showcased @ THRIVEMASTERS?
Ms Mina Shah!!! http://minashah.com/
24. How can people connect with you?
Very simple, My IG or FB Page are both active and I do respond on those regularly.